I don't know about you.....I do have some friends whom I try hard to keep in touch but the effort always comes out as a failure. It is just like two dots on two different horizons and can't be connected.
Initially I was upset a little, but as time goes by, I get to understand I should not hold on to this so tight. No, I am not having enmity towards these friends. I bear them no malice too. It's just the frustration of disappointment. Why can't they put some effort in maintaining the link as I am doing now? I treat them as friends and I'm not asking them to reciprocate in a few folds. It's just a few lines of email, that's not that difficult right?
Anyhow, I feel that it really doesn't matter now even if they don't connect to the dot on my side. I still think about them as friends and what concerns me more is my friends' well-being and happiness.
And surprise surprise, recently I received a few emails from this catagory of friends. I'm thrilled to hear from them, as you can imagine. But I'm more electrified to hear that they are doing well. This is all I want to hear. One of the messages did touch me. "Thanks for all your encouragement. Apologies for not having too much time to reciprocate. But I wanted to let you know that it's always a joy to hear from you once in a while."
There are still a number of the MIA friends in this category. Maybe I can get some dotted lines joined. A ruler may draw us a line,. Even if no line is drawn, I'm always grateful to know these friends and I always hope for happiness for them.
Even though they may not communicate for a certain time, it doesn't mean they do not value your friendship any less.
ReplyDeleteWhen I meet up with friends I have not seen in a while or spoken to friends I have not heard from for awhile, I get transported back to a time when we were closer and go over old times, but also enjoy catching up on what has passed.
Although you might not be in contact with them often, there will always be a bond there to revisit when the time comes :)
meikoy - you are certainly right. I do look forward in catching with my friends, I'm not putting expectations on it tho. I don't want to incur the stress to my friends about keeping the contact. :)
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