If I tell you it's a coincident within two days several people mentioned that they admire my life being single. Will you think I made this up? *wink* No, neither was I joking.
"I admire your life being single and happy. You have the freedom in doing things you want and go anywhere you like." LC and I were just chatting about her plans after her grad school. She said she has an issue there wherease I don't because she has to make the decision together with her bf, considering he has his own family here in this country and she has hers in other continent. Plus she wants to explore elsewhere.
"It's so wonderful being single. We are so envious of you." Two coworkers who are at their 40s made this remark to me. They didn't say it out of the blue. Actually one of them is having some problems with her husband, a battle between his career or the family, which is making her brooding on another related issue. What's new? It's just another typical marriage problem. I may blog about this in my coming post later.
Being single does have some benefits, doesn't it? At times people do admire and long for singledom. Many a times many single pals of mine and of course including myself do complain about life would be complete if we have finally found someone. But turning around to my other couple friends, it's not big news to hear them complain about their partners or related issues too. This makes me think of the different phases of moon.
Well, I admit being single, sometimes I feel that there's a hole somewhere indescribable, a feeling of incomplete in life. When you're up or down, you feel secured and not alone because you know there's always this special someone to be there to share your life. Whatever you do, there's always someone caring and thinking about you. But is the moon always full and round all the time whenever we look upon the sky at night?
No doubt the big full round moon is magnificent. A new moon or a quater moon is equally awesome as well. And no doubt single life can be a little lonely at times. But when you are alone you can decide your own schedule all by yourself. You have the entire freedom to make your day packed full with different activities or spend a day by yourself day-dreaming without having a guilty conscience. You can even simply pick up a bagpack and travel by yourself or with your own pals without discussing or seeking consents from others. Life can be slightly less complicated by just dealing your own things and not involving other people. And sometimes life doesn't get better if you've found someone too. Some grumble for not getting enough attention from their partners. Some partners are too clingy and asking for something you can't afford. Often issues are bound to start when involving two individuals because there is no way two different individuals share absolute views in all matters. This is where the compromisation takes place, which is always easier said than done.
I am not saying life is definitely easier and happier for singledoms. There are problems associated with singledoms as well as being attached. Just like the moon has many phases while making its orbit. It doesn't always look round from the earth due to the the different lighting conditions reflected by the sun to the earth and while it's rotating in the orbit. While making its own orbit within either of these two statuses in our life, we will encounter both good and bad sides of matters too. We can't twist, turn and fix the moon on one angle, so does the relationship status. It is impossible to just pick the good ones and discard the problematic issues in either single or attached lives. Why not accept it as package and figure out what we like best?
All phases of the moon are incredible. Maybe some of us are waiting for the changing status to take place. Nonetheless, we all should continue to groove on our status quo. It has its own charm. Really. :)
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