Some of my high school mates who finished school early are married. A few of them even started having children. I look at them and then look at myself thinking, "Geez, we're at our 20s but I still feel like a young child." I don't mean that I want to pretend to be childish and refuse to grow up or behave like a frivolous young girl. I'm actually thinking I still feel like my parents' young child. My grandmother once noted to me about my mother, "Regardless how old your mother is and is already a mother of a few grown-ups, forever she is still my little girl." I'm pretty sure my parents will say the same to my children in future. I can already foresee this because I've known them for about 26 years now. *lol*
My parents are those traditional chinese parents. They are extremely protective to their kids. They would offer the best to us, especially if it's related to academic. They set high expectations to us in all that we are pursuing. Before we enter college, they expect us to do really well to secure an entrance for a demanding course. After college, they expect us to get a job with good prospect in a prestigious firm. Needless to say, at this time, they start setting up another expectation upon you in hoping you finding someone with equal excellence (if not better) as their children (whom they put so much effort in moulding). Then once the children are married, they will expect you give them grandchildren to play with. When the grandchildren have reached schooling age, their grandparents will again put another round of expectations that they've set to their children 30 years ago to their grandchildren now.
Nonetheless, this is just how parents are in general. They want their children to be excellent in everything. And most importantly they have such a strong faith to their children and think they are always the best compared to their friends' children. No matter what expectations they set, I can literally feel that deep down their hearts, they just want us to own happiness and success.
Do your parents behave like mine too? Or maybe this trait is only observed in traditional chinese parents? Yes, perhaps I've given away some clue here. One of my folks is actually setting expectation on me to find someone and get married seeing the fact that some of their friends' children are at the stage of getting married. I'm bound to get some "noise" from my mother each time upon her return from attending a nuptial.
Being a parent is never easy. But being a good daughter is also equally tough. I'm not a talented jugglar. Meanwhile I think I should focus on being an excellent daughter first before becoming a loving wife or a caring mother myself. This is my answer when I'm questioned about my status each time by all relatives and my folks' friends. Hey, copyright's reserved. This is Jade's creative line. Now you have to think of your own. *lol*
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