I am sure you are pretty familiar with the "Snow White" fairy tale. In that case, you must have known what happens with Snow White and the poisonous apples. Am I right?
Again, I'm sure you are also very familiar with hurtful gossips/comments/rumours and even scoldings from others. How do you feel when you heard about all these negative remarks about you that came out from the mouths of others? And some of these remarks have been exagerated many-folds that are not even containing any truth about us anymore. How do we react about all these accusations and gossips? It is indubitable that anger is risen. How could these people accuse and gossip badly about me? Plus some of these have deeply torn my good impression and worse still affecting my life and my beloved ones'. Naturally we have the strong urge in arguing back and perhaps trying to logic with them and want to stop them from hurting us further. We can fully comprehend this immeditate reaction. It seems like a programmed reflex of our brain neurons. But have we really realized that most of the time the more we respond to these negative comments, the more they keep on directing to us? Sometimes it stops for awhile, but it gets coming back again.
So what are we supposed to do? It is their mouths, not ours and how we wish we have this magic power in zipping their mouths! But the truth is, you and I can't do that? What about going up to scold them or even hit them? Well, probably violence will help a little, but that's provided you won't get charged later for your violent acts! *lol* Ok, some scoldings and arguments will not grant an arrest, but don't forget, these people will respond to your scoldings/arguments as well. The more you react, they will get more interested in continuing to talk about you. Why? Well, because you're responding and they know they've got your nerve, as simple as that.
Does this have anything to do with Snow White? I read a book long ago using the poisonous apples as a metaphor for hurtful gossips/comments/rumours/scoldings. The evil queen bringing you a basket of poisonous apples is just like these people gossiping/spreading rumors that are bad about you. If you react to them, it is just like you're accepting the poisonous apples and eating them. But if you don't care about what they say and ignore all those stuff, you're turning the poisonous apples away. The rumors/accusations may continue for awhile. But as long as you not giving any response, it will never get you and after awhile. These people will cease talking about you anymore, because they don't get the fun in triggering your anger, they'd rather find a new target to have fun with. Or even once in a long while they come back to you (hoping that this time you'll be angry and react), you just continue ignoring them and not showing any sign of being affected, what can they do to you? Yes, they have the rights to use their mouth to speak whatever, but you have rights to make your mouth ingest whatever too.
I know it is really difficult not to respond. I mean, heck, these nasty people are talking bad about me or even scold me, how can I not react and warn them? But before we yell back at them, do you think our response will really terminate all these? Not at all. It will just make the things roll bigger and bigger. Gossips and talk bad are happening everywhere to everyone. If we respond to every of these, aren't we wasting our precious time and energy on these garbage? Better treat ourselves better and don't eat the poisonous apples.
You're talking bad about me? Ah well whatever, I just couldn't care less!
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