Thursday, March 30, 2006 @12:20 AM
“You are an opinionated person!” my senior from the service club I participated during middle school noted this to me.
That was something new to me. I had never thought that I was opinionated. Well at least my mother had been telling me the opposite since I was much younger. She thought I was very depending on them.
Now I am not trying to say that it is wrong not to be opinionated and vice versa. I think if you have a thought or belief about something or some, then you should express it if voicing that out is not going to hurt anyone. But if you have no opinion, then it is still all right. As long as we are not extreme and run over the board to become a self-opinionated person who only thinks ourselves are the only correct ones.
As mentioned in my last entry (Guy friends), YC and I met up TE for dinner. I also talked about how we chatted. During the chat, some environmental issue was brought up. YC and TE did not share the same view. That’s all right because everyone has different views and there is no right or wrong for our views. However, they just somehow started arguing. The debate even turned to a rebuttal later. Now these two friends of mine are quite an opinionated person. I was sitting there listening to their exciting debate. I did not join in. Not that I did not have thoughts about the topic they were talking; I just felt that it was really not necessary to jump in to add more oil to the burning fire.
I have come across many opinionated people, especially at work. I have to admit I am an opinionated person too, sometimes. I do voice out my thoughts in certain occasions and situations. But to me, my opinion is just my view, though I might be certain of my opinion, I do not that they are necessarily the best or the wisest of all. I used to argue with others when we did not hold the same view. I would go to the extreme, just like what my two friends did that you had the strong urge to change the other’s mind. Most of the time, an unpleasant scene was ended.
Nowadays I always try to avoid arguing with others. I would rather listen to others and then tell them about mine too. A friendly exchange of views is much more desirable. No one is perfect. Opening up to listen to others will help us learn. An opinion is just an individual preference. We shouldn’t take it too personally. I am really glad the two friends of mine did not end up contributing a news headlines for tomorrow's papers. Phewwwww…
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