Tuesday, April 11, 2006 @10:46 PM
Many people have asked me what type of guys I am interested.
How did I respond?
I smiled, paused, gave some thoughts and then replied, “It’s pretty simple; someone that I feel comfortable and secure. Someone I trust and admire. Someone whom I can communicate and share some similar (but not necessary exactly the same) views and aims about life. He possesses certain good qualities such as kind-hearted, responsible, mature and caring.”
That’s all. Am I asking too much?
“I don’t think you’re asking too much. Your list sounds general.” Some commented.
Actually I think I am pretty picky. It is not that easy to find the perfect one who fits in my criteria. Why? Well, I am sure there are a few who do possess the traits as described in my list. Yet that is really not enough; it has to be dual way traffic too; the person has to feel the same too. Then there ought to be some chemistry to keep it going.
“Oh dear, why are you behaving like that?! Why don’t you behave a bit more lady-like?”
“Don’t laugh too loud. You’re scaring guys away.”
“You have to smile more. You better dress up nicely.”
I used to get these harassing suggestions once in a while from my family. They think I need to make some improvements on this. I usually just laughed and told them, “Well, I am happy of who I am. There is really no point for me to fake change for another person. He has to like and appreciate me of who I am.”
Okay, I admit I am superficial; I like to look at good-looking people. But to me, someone with a good heart will naturally make the person looks attractive. This great charisma is far better than any so-called beautiful appearance. Now I know why I always disagreed with my college-mate’s view of defining “charming guys”.
“Awww…this guy is so cute!” obsessive college-mate exclaimed.
“What?! You like guys who are cute? No way! Cute is meant to refer to little young boys, just like my brother!” I strongly objected.
All right; I have to take back my words. I would say a guy is cute too if he falls in my category (the-one category). Not that he is really cutie cute, but someone who brings joys and happiness to my life, someone who can share the ups and downs with me.
I don’t sound greedy, do I? Hehe…
