A couple at work became parents two months ago. The wife was telling me how upset she was when she heard her husband "scolding" their two-month old baby when she cried continuously the whole day giving the mother (the female coworker) a hard time."I felt so upset seeing the baby crying. Her daddy should not had scolded her. I ended up crying together with the baby. When my husband saw both of us crying, he felt awful too and kept apologising to us."
"I'm so sorry that daddy shouted at you. I will never do that to you again!"
My parents were extremely strict to us during our broughtups. Scolding were common in our family and sometimes caning too in disciplining us. Each time after a serious "event", I heard my dad telling my grandmother how painful he felt from scolding and punishing us.
Since I am not a mother yet, I do not quite understand why would my coworkers and my parents felt upset for scolding their kids. Aren't they doing the right thing as parents to teach their children? Why would they feel more awful if they were doing the right thing? I guess that is because they love their kids. Although the kids may have done something wrong that needs to be disciplined, the parents feel more painful in disciplining their children. They would really prefer not to discipline their kids in that way, but to them that was the best way and they had to do it for the kids' own good. Seeing their kids crying and stuff is never something the parents wanted to see. It's all because of love.
It is the same if we have disagreement or little "events" with our loved ones or significant other. Like it or not, as much as we tried very hard to avoid them, still there would be times that incidents like those unavoidably happen. This is because every individual is not exactly the same; everyone has their own view and thinking. Nevertheless times like this, we all should learn how to deal with those little "events" because if they are dealt in a good proper way, it actually does help us in communicating with each other and thus making us understanding each other better. However, we should really make those little "events" cease there and not grow further or else we will certainly start breaking the china/glass (refer post: Mend the broken china?). And once the china/glass is broken, you'll get the scratch mark on the mended china. Oh, the latter scenario is also provided that you are so skillful in mending broken glasses.
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