Chinese language is a beautiful and sophisticated language, in fact it is more than just beautiful. Each Chinese words resembles a meaning and sometime more than a meaning. Almost all words have their story of origin. When two words or more form a specific phrase, it gives a specific meaning and often more than one meaning too. I could be bias since Chinese is always my first language. But let me give you an example to support my little statement here.In Chinese language, we have this phrase called, "hold hands". Yes, hold hands literally means two hands holding each other, hand in hand. As simple as that. We all know about this. Yet did you know that in Chinese language, this phrase also resembles your spouse or to some your life partner?
I find this phrase really explains it all. It signifies how we share the rest of our lives with this person, whom we regard as our spouse/partner, be it happy moment or while going through rough time. Hence "hold hands". One might think this explanation is so obvious, yet how many of us really understand the true meaning behind “hold hands”? Many hit it off immediately in the initial stage. One might just adored the person’s personality, or was attracted to his/her appearance. One could also be drawn to this person for whatever reason, or possibly no reason at all. But whatever it is, the bottom line is one feel excited and happy to be together with this person. Yet soon enough, not all survived for whatever reason because attraction does not last.
And then there were some moving along pretty well, but when an external factor (as minor as a change in career to the more severe situation such as sickness) was introduced, the routine was stirred up. Say you were promoted to take up additional responsibilities at work. Hence during the transition period, you were struggling hard time to cope with the mess at work and hence spending less time with your spouse/partner. If your spouse/partner does not understand enough, may start to complain how much you have neglected him/her. Well, this may not be it, small matters could blow up for no reason. The tension between you and your partner makes you feel that, “Gosh, is this the person I met few years ago?”. Believe it or not, at the same time your spouse/partner might be thinking the same too. Some decided to part from there while some might be able to move on after much communication.
One might think being able to share one’s happiness with others is easy. But what about getting along with someone who can bring happiness to you, not to make you upset and vice versa? Isn’t it a bit tricky then? When I say happiness, it is not about finding someone who is a talented comedian or have a good sense of humor. But more of a person, who could be the most boring uninteresting person to others, yet you would still feel happy to be with this person, because he/she literally can share happiness with you. Well, perhaps that would do too. Just imagine when you were all cranky and grumpy that day, he/she was understanding and caring enough and made an effort to crack a joke or two to make you laugh. You know, all in all is your "hold hands" is able to be there for you when you're having a hardtime, making you laugh or doing whatever, just to give you al the support he/she could and going through the countless roller coaster rides hand in hand with you.
Sharing is not an easy thing. Some did not make it all the way through just because either party was not able to share happiness. There were instances where conflicts occured to an untolerable extent that both sides had to call it off just because one was doing excellent in expanding his/her career yet the spouse/partner was unable to share that happiness. And then there were some who could not enjoy roller coaster ride with their spouse/partner and therefore decided to ditch their spouse/partner and go after other easier rides.
Do you get it now? Why the phrase, "hold hands" to signify spouse/life partner in Chinese language? Anyhow, if you've found your "hold hands", remember to cherish and appreciate this person. Things could go wrong for any reasons and changes are happening all the time. But no matter what happens, your "hold hands" is meant to be there going through all ups and downs hand in hand with you. This is why he/she is your "hold hands" but not others. Oh by the way, don't you agree with me now that Chinese language is one of the beautiful and sophisticated languages in the world?
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