Tuesday, January 02, 2007 @6:52 PM
Welcome to the year 2007! First of all, Happy New Year folks! Speaking of new year, perhaps it is about time for some new year's resolution? What are my new year's resolutions? Have I thought about any? Well, as mentioned before (refer
earlier post), I am not a believer for new year's resolutions. But I do have a
"New DAY's" resolution. Oh what a hypocrite I am!
Few weeks ago, or to be precise, sometime last year, my close buddy Dr. AA the one who had her doctoral thesis written up, was telling me an interesting conversation she had with two of her childhood mates regarding planning for our future. AA and I happen to be working in the medical field. Coming from the same career background and going through the same phase of struggling through completing a degree and then trying hard to link draw a future in the same field, both of us were somehow lost in our direction. While awaiting the official green light from her institution, the soon-to-be Dr. AA is pondering hard about what to do with her future. So am I, although the date for my dissertation remains a mist, which also has been a little frustrating. Therefore, it is not difficult to visualise two lost beings scratching their heads figuring hard what they really want for their future, in terms of every aspect of their lives.
A really good example (the conversation my friend had with her two friends) was included, by way of illustration. So let me introduce the two childhood friends of my friend here to you;
Ms Goals-driven-Planner and
Ms Go-with-Flow. From their names, it is rather easy to figure out their personalities. So Ms Goals-driven-Planner is leading a successful career. Of course she has to work hard to be successful; whenever she has a goal, she works hard at it and goes to make it happen. She was given a promotion recently. Let's take a look at the other friend, Ms Go-with-Flow. Ms Go-with-Flow is more of a go with the flow person. She does not seem to make plans for her future. Thus she is still more or less in the testing water stage in her career. She seems to be happy with what she is doing right now and does not see that she has to move up. When she gets bored with what she is doing, she'll just move into something else. She doesn't have any specific goals except that she just wants to do something she thinks will make her happy and content.
So what about that conversation? How could the conversation between my friend and the two friends of her who apparently have very opposing characters be interesting? What has that conversation to do with my
"New Day's" resolution?
Goals-driven-Planner (GDP): Don't you have goals?Go-with-Flow (GWF): *shaking her head*GDP: Don't you want to make sure when you are older, you'll have a good job that pays you enough to live in *insert a classy expensive neighborhood area*?GWF: *still shaking her head*GDP: Aren't you thinking about getting your own place?GWF: *continuous silence*GDP: Don't you want to buy a nice house for your kids and to be able to send them to good schools?GWF: *another long pause*GDP: If you wants those things then you should be working hard now to plan for those things so you don't have to work so hard later on for them, to struggle.AA decided to interupt to voice out a little.
AA: Well, let me say something here. My parents hardly had anything when they started our family yet we (the kids) are all able to survive.GDP: Same as mine but they struggled and had to work really hard and they're still working hard now.AA agreed whole-heartedly about what GDP just commented. But still being also someone who is not so goal-oriented, AA was not completely convinced by GDP's working towards the goal concept. Hence the cease of the conversation while AA was left reeving in it. However in the middle of indulging dessert, the silent GWF who was only shaking her head previously in the conversation, suddenly announced and declared, "I do have goals!"
Yes, Ms Go-with-Flow does have goals. But she just does not plan too much but rather go with the flow and then work it out gradually as compared to Ms Goals-driver-Planner who plans and work on them.
My friend, AA, who is a combination of Ms GDP and Ms GWF, concluded that,
"I concluded that you live life that way that you want and you have to live with the choices you make but when you have the same end goals you just make it work the way you want."What about me? I think it really doesn't matter about how much a planner we are or how much the go with the flow we prefer, at the end of the day, it is our own future. Sometimes planning helps; say if you know you want to go for a Carribean cruise trip, then of course you have to plan on the dates (fitting the work schedule or other commitments) and the cruise (which company offers a good deal) you want to take. Those sort of practical stuff. It definitely does not make too much sense for you to research on airline promotion to Africa if you want to go for a Carribean cruise trip. However sometimes things work better without planning, better still a serendipitous surprise.
Although I have still not made up my mind what my future will be. Although sometimes I feel lost, a wee-bit about my next step. Although I am not quite sure whether I will like what I am doing now. Yes, although there are a lot of uncertainties for the future, my future and perhaps your future, regardless you are a planner or a go-with-the flow person, let us start making a new year's resolution together or in my case my new day's resolution;
be happy with what we are doing/going to do. Yes, that's our new year's resolution.