Whoa! 2 lengthy posts (The Outlet; Snow White and the poisonous apples) straight in a day! Geez, it's just like having a heavy breakfast early in the morning. *lol* Anyhow, I like to let you know that I love reading your comments. :) Some of them are just like a third eye exposing views that I was not able to perceive.
I got a great one, freshly baked from the oven regarding my earlier post, "Stop the complaints, for all time". Thank you very much, H. aka NC_state for your perspective. Appreciate that. :)
"Jade - although your entry has value, I think that sometimes a good rant is therapeutic. Life is not always sunny and rosy and people can't always be happy. I think that it is great that there are positive people like you out in the world that want to spread joy, but I think that some people just need an emotional outlet for the things that are bothering them, no matter how materialistic that it appears. It is human nature and in my opinion is that some complaints are healthy."
I guess I didn't elaborate clearly and put a clear emphasis in the post. We all have problems that are bothering us. That is a non deniable fact. I can understand the frustrations when facing these problems. It is certainly not wise to suppress all these frustrations inside us. As the pressure gets higher and once it hits x-GigaPascal, it will just explode and the damage might be deleterious. This is not a wise way, and certainly not the way. An appropriate outlet is a MUST. But that doesn't mean we go on forever and ever to just complain about the same thing. I have many experiences that I complained one good old same thing again and again. For a start, the problem is one problem in my life. But I over-magnified it and the more I complained about it, the worse I felt and others who listened to me too. Secondly, although it was a serious problem, but I realized my continuous complaints didn't ease the situation any better but worsen it a whole lot.
With this brought up, I mean we should definitely find a good outlet. I find talking my problems with some people is one good outlet. We go through the problems, listen to their perspectives and find a solution for it. But even sometimes it is kind of a helpless problem, at least a good pair of ears helps tremendously to release the Pascal.
But what I really wanted to emphasize is, sometimes we complain way too much. Little things we just complain for the sake of complain. We are no longer easily satisfied and just be content. This is because we calculate too much. We analyse what we have and what we don't very detailed and measure it in minute details using the "calculator". This is certainly not going to help us at all. The more we calculate, the unhappier we get because we just want everything we want. It is just like the example I brought up in the post earlier. Stop counting and just work on things we want. If we don't get it, still be happy about ourselves.
We need an outlet. But an outlet is a way to get rid of things, and not for us to "generate unnecessary things" (ie calculating too much and thus leads to more frustrations and unhappiness) so that we have something to release. I have some good outlets. Hope you have found one too. :)
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